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5 Tips to Push Through the Fear of Starting Your Virtual Assistant Business

It’s scary to put yourself out there when you have never done it before.

It’s kind of like a first date, except on our first date we have zero experience so that’s usually the thing that causes us anxiety.

With your business, you aren’t a young kid. You are older, you have some work experience (even if it is not as a VA). You are making a plan to operate a business.

The anxiety is the same – it’s still the world of the unknown, but remember that the reason you are starting your business is that you have work experience in administration, and you know that there are LOADS of clients that you can help. Yes, you!

I remember thinking that I just didn’t really know what I was doing starting a business, so the uncertainty scared me.

I also remember feeling like I didn’t want my family and friends to see what I was doing, in case it didn’t work out. The fear of putting myself out there – and maybe being seen!

I also remember pushing myself to attend networking events, but as an introvert, being terrified to talk to anyone. The fear of saying something and sounding stupid.

I also remember stumbling through my rehearsed infomercial in my car – recording it so I could play it back to see how dumb it (probably) sounded – all the way to a business event. Many times when I got there I was too scared to even say it in case I screwed it up. And sometimes, I did screw it up.

Through it all, I lived. And you will too. It doesn’t mean it’s not scary, but it does mean that when you move through something you are scared of, you will not be scared of it anymore!

What FEAR is holding you back from launching your Virtual Assistant business?

Here are a few that you might be experiencing, and how to push through them:

Our biggest fear is often just of not being able to make a go of the business, and having to tell our family and friends that it didn’t work. We know they were probably skeptical anyway, so it’s validating to them and humiliating for you. How to push through? Don’t give up. Learn what you need to know to take the right steps towards your success. If you are not meeting enough people, expand your connections. If you are meeting people and not closing clients, how can you improve your technique? Failing is just deciding not to try again.

One of the biggest issues I see with VAs is that they don’t want anyone to see them making a mistake. I’m not sure why, but we seem to think that any time we write something or post something online, that the entire world sees it. If you have great SEO and a huge following, this happens (think Rachel Hollis). When you are first starting out as a VA (and your mom and husband are the only two on your mailing list like me, when I started!), all you have to do is edit or delete something. If you do something that turns out to be the wrong decision, just change it. Make a new decision based on what went wrong last time, and move forward.

Decisions are never final. It can paralyze you to want to be sure that you are not wasting time, money, or your pride – but once you realize that things are always changeable, you will feel more empowered by decision making. As a VA, you are a business owner who will need to make multiple decisions every single day – some small ones and some huge ones – and yes, sometimes things will not turn out the way you thought they would. So dust yourself off and make a new decision – take a new path!

Similar to #2 above, just because you do something doesn’t mean the world will see it. You also need to remember that everyone who owns a business, including our clients, all started off where you are. They all had to learn a lot of things to get to know how business works, and they had to ask for help too. If you don’t know how to do something or where to find it, ask. And then go and find it. The only thing that could make you look dumb is asking the same things over and over and never moving forward with any presented solutions. Oh yes, this happens too! When you get the answer you were looking for, it’s time to move forward.

Introverts often struggle with the networking part of being a business owner. VAs are accustomed to being lower on the totem pole than the ‘boss’ used to be in the corporate setting – and often feel that the client is above them. But clients are not smarter than you – not by a long shot. Most times they hire VAs to get help with something they have no idea how to do – something that we can do easily. So there is never a need to feel embarrassed in their presence. They need you, and they know it. You just need to know it too.

Fear is a very common emotion when it comes to starting a VA business.

But just because you are new at something doesn’t mean you are bringing nothing to the table. Once you realize that everyone has been where you are, and that everything is fixable, your fears will be on their way out.

Be sure to do the mindset work you need to move past the fears that are presenting themselves. You can do this!

As for me … some days I still don’t know what I’m doing – but it’s not scary anymore. I’m also not scared that my family and friends will see me fail. They are actually interested in what I do. I actually love networking now because I know what to talk about and I don’t feel stupid. And I simply stopped doing elevator pitches ages ago because they are fake and boring. Now I have conversations – natural ones. And it’s FUN.

Do You Need Help?

If you need help wrangling your fear and pushing past it, get in touch with me. I’m here to help.

It’s the only reason I’m here at all, as you know. To help you become a ridiculously good VA.

I have helped hundreds of VAs who are stuck get moving through private coaching, group coaching, and live and self study trainings. If you want to talk about how we can work together, let’s connect on a Cut to the Chase call. You can book yours at YourVAMentor.com/chase

‌What You Need to Do Next:

Let’s work together privately to get you to your really big goal. It’s the fastest way to get results and we can start right away. Learn more about private coaching here.

I have a brand new low-cost monthly membership program that will help you build your VA business – and it doesn’t require you to be on social media! It’s an email membership that I call The Virtual Toolkit! Every Monday morning you’ll receive a lesson and a downloadable resource in your inbox, that you can use to take a step further in your VA business. I’ve created TONS of amazing resources for you – from business foundations and building resources (financial stuff, calculators, productivity, tech tips and tools, website planning guide) to marketing tools (branding worksheet, blogging templates, content calendar, client acquisition, marketing campaign planner) to advanced business skills (package planning, branding tools, onboarding checklist, seo checklist, client management) and personal growth stuff (goal setting worksheet, networking, speaking tips and tools, conflict resolution tips). All of this is available to you for just $9 a month!! You get your first resource as soon as you register, and every Monday morning after that you’ll get a fresh new one. Get more details and sign up here now!

My self study program Getting Started as a VA can help you get your VA business started easily and quickly too. You can sign up right away and be on your way to getting clients by the end of the program, with all the right foundations in place. Check out the program here.

Click here for more tips to help you with your productivity and time management in your Virtual Assistant business.

Reach out to me if you need to talk about where you are stuck and what the right option might be to get you moving. It’s literally all I’m here to do is help you get to where you want to go. Book a complimentary Cut to the Chase call with me here.